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  一份不在婚禮上的家長致辭
                                                                               
                                                                               
萍兒：
                                                                               
爸媽聽到你要結婚喜訊，真為你高興，
                                                                               
遠隔千里，我們不能參加你的婚禮，
                                                                               
不能在婚禮上獻上我們的家長致辭，
                                                                               
這是我們內心的一點遺憾．
                                                                               
但你是我們的女兒，
                                                                               
相信你能理解爸媽的一份感受．
                                                                               
那天放下電話，我和你媽沈默了良久－－
                                                                               
我們的孩子怎麼一下子就長大了？
                                                                               
後來，你媽對著鏡子淡淡地說：
                                                                               
你看，我的白頭髮又多了，萍兒也該結婚了．
                                                                               
我數著你媽的白髮，那些白髮竟像許多往事，
                                                                               
一件一件浮上心頭．你媽提醒我：
                                                                               
還是給女兒寫一封信吧！就算是我們送你的一份新婚禮物．
                                                                               
萍兒，我們只是天底下最平凡的父母，
                                                                               
我們的孩子也只是天底下最平凡的女兒，
                                                                               
我們不奢求太多，只是希望我的孩子踏上婚姻之路，
                                                                               
走向人生之旅後，能滿懷感恩，
                                                                               
一路平安在這裡，給你一個我們的生活體會．
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
先要告訴你：家不是一個講理的地方．
                                                                               
這句話聽起來，很沒有道理，但千真萬確，
                                                                               
這句話是真理，是至理，
                                                                               
是多少夫婦，多少家庭（包括我們家）
                                                                               
用多少歲月，多少辛酸，多少愛恨，多少是非，多少對錯，
                                                                               
在糾纏不清難解難分的混亂中，梳理出來的一個最後結論．
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
當夫婦之間開始據理力爭時，家裡便開始怖上陰影．
                                                                               
兩人都會不自覺地各抱一堆面目全非的歪理，
                                                                               
敵視對方，傷害對方，最後只能兩敗俱傷，難以收拾．
                                                                               
多少夫妻，為了表面的一個〔理〕，落得負心無情．

他們不知道，家不是講理的地方，不是算帳的地方．
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
那麼，何為〔家〕，家是什麼地方？
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
萍兒，我們年輕的時候，也回答不了這個問題；
                                                                               
也像許多夫妻那樣，為一點小事爭鬧不休．
                                                                               
那一年為了你小叔的調動問題，
                                                                               
我和你媽大吵了一場，甚至鬧到要離婚的地步．